Marriage has simply become so culturally or morally meaningless that more and more people are opting out of it.
The problem is not cultural. It is economic. It is a very bad deal for men. You can read about it on any of the men's sites I linked. My sons tell me the same thing.
It is amazing how little current research you do about everything you "know". Even when provided with links or if you want to head out on your own "search terms".
And gays? They are hardly a big enough factor in the population to matter. But OK. Suppose they matter. They WANT to get married.
As to the marriage monopoly on sex. That was always more for the woman than the man. Men do not like to support children that are not their own. Some will. Some will like it. Most don't. Step fathers are notoriously a problem. Way more prevalent than the problems caused by real fathers.
I might go so far as to not allow divorce except for cause until all the children of a marriage are above age 18.
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Two views of government:
1. People MUST be controlled in very many aspects of their life. This runs into problems.
a. You need a control system. This is expensive to very expensive.
b. You need controllers. Controllers will be corrupted.
c. It is difficult to decide how much control is necessary. Every "problem" created by control requires more control.
All this leads to a control death spiral.
2. People should be controlled as little as possible.
a. The problem here is that people will do things that have unfortunate effects. That can be minimized by direct laws/control. Against the initiation of violence. Against lying in commercial transactions. Force and fraud.
b. People will do things that have unfortunate side effects. If the effects are small you either ignore them or lightly regulate the conditions. If the side effects are very bad you allow cultural wisdom to take over. We see that with alcohol prohibition. Despite drug side effects 10X worse than all the other intoxicants combined the idea of re-instating alcohol prohibition is not SERIOUSLY considered. To allow the culture to regulate an activity you have to be trained to allow people to go their own "wicked" ways until they come to Jesus. Minimal control - which allows us our liberty has to be trained. It is normally not natural. Fortunately we do have such an inadvertent training program. It has trained people to look into the advantages of minimal control. I would mention the name of the program but it seems to make you crazy.
To do this well you have to teach people the difference between vice and crime. We used to understand that. Our problem in that area is religion. Most of them conflate vice with crime.
What are the limits of control? If the area controlled covers much less than 1% of the population control is not an expensive or onerous problem - generally. Hardly any one cares that nuke weapons are forbidden to the general population. Despite the 2nd Amendment.
Once you get up to 1% things start to get dicey. Control starts to get expensive and socially corrosive.
Around 5% control is impossible. And horribly expensive in every way. Spiritually, morally, socially, economically.
I'm not anti-Prohibition so much as anti-control. Control is bad for the human spirit.
It is expensive. It is socially corrosive.
I'm of the opinion that people will eventually do the right thing after they have tried everything else. We should let them. Eventually a body of cultural wisdom will evolve. That is the least expensive form of control and it is not brittle. It is adaptable on relatively short time scales.
Government control is brittle unless done by a dictator who is very little into control (know any?). Rules get established that are hard to change once conditions that prompted the rules change. And of course there is regulatory capture.
We have a cure for cancer
http://phoenixtears.ca/ it is poorly researched and rarely available and very expensive because we have a control system supposedly controlling something else.
Oh. And calling me pro drug is quite incorrect. I'm anti-alcohol and anti-tobacco. The two most dangerous drugs out there. Still. I prefer social control even in those cases. I am especially in favor of any popular drug that reduces the harmful side effects of those drugs. If by switching people to those other drugs they reduce the harmful effects of alcohol and tobacco - even better.
It would be good if you could face the fact that government control is breaking down because it always breaks down from its own contradictions. It might be good if you could accept that social control is much less prone to such breakdowns. But no matter. I have the younger generations mostly on my side.
I would rather be exposed to the inconveniences attending too much liberty than to those attending too small a degree of it. — Thomas Jefferson
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As to my attitudes towards marriage? Personally I always cared a LOT for my kids. But I never much cared about the wider society until my boys started talking to me about their problems with it. That induced me to study the problem and also the nature of women. I never knew there was a general problem of understanding the nature of women because I assumed everyone eventually got the kind of education I did. I was mistaken. However, the 'net is correcting that.
Once you understand the way things work - what to do falls right out. The problem as always are the things we know that ain't so.
My engineering hat is always on. "How does it really work" is a question that is never far from the front of my mind. And I am ALWAYS willing to change my mind. Not as easily as I used to but I always consider that an option. Most people lose that option for significant areas of their life after age 25 or so when endocannabinoid production in the body declines rapidly. Now that is not bad when the average lifespan is 40 years. When it goes to 80 years it causes difficulties. Societies get too rigid. Lets do the math 40-25 = 15. Which means society is never more than 15 years out of date - on average. 80-25 = 55. Which means society is on average 55 years out of date. Given the current rate of change that is a disaster.
So in that particular dimension we have two parties. The youth party and the old people's party. In the dimension of control they are the same party. It didn't used to be that way. The only thing I have in common with the old people's party is their understanding of economics. In that dimension the old people's party gets that control is pernicious. They get that adaptability is very important. If only they could extend that understanding. My problem is that I am not a control freak. So neither appeals much to me. What the old people's party doesn't get is that social control is just as pernicious as economic control. Adaptability is the missing element. Because things will change. Go with the flow. It is self correcting if you have the patience for it.
What the old people's party doesn't get is that social control gives license for economic control.
Success is attractive. Failure is not. If we understood that deeply we would be less apprehensive. And more adaptable. Failure teaches individual lessons. When control is paramount those individual lessons do not get learned.
Ah. Well. Human nature is what it is.