It is forcing others to do your will, even in contradiction to their own. It is an ecstasy of status.
Machiavelli says that kind of thing is hard to keep up for a long time. It may be exercised from time to time out of necessity but as a long term strategy it crates resents followed by the knife in the back or poison in the cup.
It is much better to join with people who's wills agree with yours.
Now take this BFR thing for instance. I command no one. No one commands me and yet....