JLawson wrote:Of course, a world with zero risk is also a world with zero anything, except maybe a phthalate-free, gender-neutral doll with no eyes. (Because these can be come detached, posing a choking hazard.) But when the government declares that we must live in a zero-risk world, it is free to outlaw almost any product or parenting practice it decides to set its sights on. And we have no recourse but to toss the toys we trust, the heirlooms we loved, and the age-old belief that if we train our kids to be brave and smart, we can gradually let them out to embrace the world, risk and all.
That's something my lovely bride and I have been arguing about for about 15 years in respect to the one and only child. Her paranoia of packs of child-stealing predators roaming the country were perversely pushed by evening news, with an "Even a million to one risk is too much!" attitude being taken to not letting the little guy run around in the high wooden fenced locked-gate backyard with no supervision.
I've pushed for more and more over the years - encouraging him to take risks, encouraging my lovely bride to LET him take risks - and... he's doing pretty much okay. He's kinda risk-adverse, which I don't much like... but he's also mature enough to judge for himself the risks he wants to take. (Like flight training. Man, I wish the cost of avgas weren't so high...)
I think the biggest problem is that we've got far too many lawyers and far too many of them get into civil service, where they have to find things to occupy their time. And if something isn't regulated... doesn't it make sense to regulate it?
But the logical conclusion is, as you point out, establishing a zero-risk environment that doesn't do a blessed thing to prepare the child for the real world.
Its cyclical. Generations of abandoned children will over-protect their own, and foster an attitude in society to match. Generations of coddled children, just the opposite. Enforcement of statute and acceptable behavior waxes and wanes with the societal attitude.
Consider - the 1976 movie "Taxi Driver" with a young Jodie Foster. The "child as young adult" + sexualized Lolita mentality on screen. Seven years later, the first freakouts at the McMartin Preschool begin. What happened in the interim? The early cohort of "latchkey" GenX hit young adulthood and parenthood, kicking the earlier generations into their next stages of life (Boomers into yuppie middle age, Silent into mature authority, Greatest into retirement). GenX as a group grew up abandoned while their Boomer and Silent parents were out "finding themselves." Conversely, the Silent grew up abandoned while their parents were out rebuilding and saving the world.
The mentality of GenX as a group fits the upbringing - individualist survivor, nihilist in youth transitioning to middle aged social builder for the last decade or so as the children of late-Boomers/early-Xer cohorts (the Millennials) have transitioned into young adulthood. The cohort-mentality of Millennials also fits the upbringing - raised protected, constantly told and reassured they're the greatest & the best. Parallel to the Greatest generation's upbringing, actually, just as Xers are parallel to the Lost generation who were the youth of the 1920s, the middle-managers of WW2, and the senior statesmen of "the '50s" (1946-'60).
Art to define GenX? In youth - Bill Paxton in "Aliens" (1986): "We're on an express elevator to hell; goin' DOWWWWWWN!" In middle age - the police-procedural show "Castle": Richard Castle as Xer's passing chaotic youth, Kate Beckett as nihilistic cynicism in maturity.